Conditional love

I've spent a chunk of time in psychology talking about conditional love and the effect it has on kids. Conditional love is when a parent will only love a child  if they live up to their expectations; Or as my psych book states it- "Conditional positive regard: Giving love and approval only if you agree with the person's major life choices." Baba constantly tries to mold Amir to his liking and I feel that that attributes to the various problems Amir has. Low self-esteem could make someone constantly seek attention and Amir is always trying to outshine Hassan and maybe even hurt him a little bit. Baba's constant belittling of Amir is what leads Amir to boss Hassan around and I feel that if Hassan wasn't there, Amir would be left helpless and desperate. Honestly, Amir is lucky that his Hassan admires him so much and let's him boss him around because otherwise Amir wouldn't be able to get his anger and frustration out subconsciously and would be totally depressed. Although Baba believes that Amir has no mean bone in his body, I think that Amir actually is capable of violence but just puppets Hassan to carry out his actions. Hassan really is just a loyal puppet that Amir can manipulate.